This book charts the path a girl traverses from childhood to adulthood that  leads her to oppress women, a path carved out by rigid gender roles for girls and women, internalized self-hate, damaging societal messages about female behavior, and hidden effects of female to female oppression. Self-hatred is a key link between girls’ relational aggression and women who oppress women.

This book is unique because it helps women identify and respond to the oft invisible dynamics between them, enabling women to feel important and take themselves and each other seriously. In particular, we discuss several double binds (“Catch-22s”) that women experience and how they intertwine with societal norms, expectations about gender roles and other psychological processes and social pressures. We believe cultural norms, especially those regarding gender, must be considered.

This book provides information/resources that enable the quality of relationships between girls and the quality of relationships between women to be stronger, more collaborative, more authentically open and less bound by the constrictions of cultural norms about gender. We want women to bond together for the pure joy this connection brings and for the social good to which it can lead